A question I’m sure most of us ask ourselves a few times in our lives. I’ve been going through a few changes lately which have left me thinking what on earth am I doing and where am I going with it! I ended up thinking back to when I was 16, finishing my GCSE’s and being forced to decide what I was going to do for the rest of my life.. at the mere age of SIXTEEN!!!! Thinking about the situation now, having grown from it, I think it’s ridiculous that 15/16 year old’s are expected to make this big decision. Of course there’s room to change your mind or really find your interests and maybe it was the school I went to but I just remember my teacher’s drumming into us that we had to get A*-C’s in our GCSE’s or else we wouldn’t get into the best college’s or sixth forms of our choice and so therefore we won’t be able to get a good foot in the door for our future careers. In other words.. we’d fail at life.
I’m not quite sure how young my audience ranges to but for anyone around this age range who might feel the pressure do not worry! You’re young.. We’re young. We have time to figure it all out! It’s quite important to have an idea of your interests and potential career choices (disclaimer: this post is not to encourage laziness or a “go with the flow” / “wing it” kind of lifestyle but simply to reassure you that’s it’s OKAY to not have the answer right now) but don’t stress out if you haven’t made a set decision or plan just yet. I can probably list my career choices over the past 5-7 years:
- model (glamour, then hand)
- psychologist (clinical, then counselling, then child)
- beauty therapist
- something social media related
- something to do with childcare
- honestly, the list is endless!
I personally don’t think this is such a bad thing. I know some people will probably read this post and my list and think “goodness, what a misguided and confused girl” but I honestly believe that in life we shouldn’t be set to just one thing. Well, that’s how I want to live anyway (disclaimer: not trying to influence my beliefs or lifestyle on others). I want to be involved in as many things as possible, have a number of different qualifications and experience in loads of different fields. That way, I don’t have to worry about what one thing I’m going to for the rest of my life. I’ll have more choice.
As Patrick demonstrates above it’s easy to feel like the anomaly in a group of friends where everyone is talking about all their goals and dreams and what they’re doing to achieve these especially when you haven’t quite figured it out yet. We are easily influenced by our friends and especially our parents and families. For a while I was so caught up by what my parents thought was best for me I forgot to think about what I actually want! I recently made a decision that is sort of the complete opposite of what my parents were hoping for me and for ages I was so worried about telling them. It didn’t stop me, I’d made up my mind and made my decision and it was just a matter of actually telling them. Low and behold they support me ! They’re my parents after all. This brought me to the conclusion that it doesn’t really matter what I do, as long as I work hard and I’m successful!
And remember, change happens at any age! It’s never too late or too early to try something new or pick up a new hobby, to pick up a new qualification or even start a new career path!
I wish you all nothing but success my lovelies.